I should admit that between me and my friends, one of our most favorite topic is talking about guys. From me and my best friends in Indo, me and my roommate, me and my hall neighbor, and disclaimer: it's not only me, but US as girls. Hahaha.
However, conversation does evolve. Canteen talk during secondary school break or phone call in some evenings revolve around school and 'charming' boy. He doesn't need to be handsome, but usually when always happened that he was "ok...." or even if he's 'not ok', because of his skill or his style or his joke then he becomes 'ok' and can be me and my friends' topic of conversation. During secondary school, criteria of like/"love" most of the times still depends on how hard your heart beats when you are near the guy or like in the movie "Crazy little thing called love", how often you want to walk pass his class just to catch a glimpse of him.
Moving to high school, things were getting slightly more serious. We still admired good-looking guys, hearts were beating fast when you are near the guy that you think you like, but whether you like the guy or not doesn't depend on different stories. Some friends used to not like the guy that at the end became their boyfriends, it's just that my friends' heart melted after these guys' perseverance. Hence, conversation evolved to how these guys have successfully made the girls smile and love them. Unfortunately, some guys are not thankful enough that my friends at the end melted and loved them back. These are the guys who just chase girls for the sake of the fun of 'chasing'. Stupid guys! (oops, sorry...disclaimer: not all guys are bad, not all girls are good). Some other friends had complicated situations due to the existing friendship with the guys. One side expected more-than-just-friends, one side is not. Then, our conversation was on hypothesis on "whether-this-guy-likes-me-or-not". There was not any discussion on 'long-term' hope. The maximum vision is up to hoping that the guy likes you back and both of u are attached. Mission accomplished.
Then, we move to university life, the moment when we are not teenagers anymore, when I can't force my age to be "twen-teen". At this stage, though girls do talk about handsome guys, usually we have 2 category of guys: those to be admired only and those to be "loved" (or actually, hoping that this guy loves you.. Someone's mom said: Love a guy that love you more than you love him! --> I forgot whose mom, confirmed a girl's mom). Topics are not on "get-the-guy-to-love-you", but most of the times of "What if..." and "But..." Things like his religion, family background, attitude towards some issues, become a topic of discussion. Definitely things are not fairytales anymore. Discussion starts with an "If..." and ends with a "Just see how and let it flow.." Feelings become deeper, but at the same time, we generally don't want to fall so deep like when we were in high school. We use more empirical evidences to discuss why you should or should not like this particular guy, whether you should or should not keep close with this guy, and what to hope and not to hope.
While we used to refer to magazines and radio when we were high school and secondary school, now we cited parents/uncles/aunties/neighbors, eg "Don't keep in a relationship only with a hope that 'he will change someday' if you know that you can't take that thing because 99.9% people can't change that bad thing whatever it is. Unless you think that you can ACCEPT that particular thing, BREAK OFF the relationship NOW so you don't waste your time."
Anyway, I'll be home SOON! and this time I'm looking forward for one of my best friend's update who was just attached two (?) weeks ago. Well, this is an example of how complicated the situation was. Apparently this guy's name, attitude, background, closeness with my best friend, and so on and so forth have been mentioned in our discussion since MONTHS ago, and only two weeks ago (finally) they became 'official' :P
conversation topics have shifted..
we grow up..
though maybe parents still think that it seems like we don't think about it (or we are still childish coz we scream when we see handsome guys on magazine cover), we do think and talk about it :)
However, conversation does evolve. Canteen talk during secondary school break or phone call in some evenings revolve around school and 'charming' boy. He doesn't need to be handsome, but usually when always happened that he was "ok...." or even if he's 'not ok', because of his skill or his style or his joke then he becomes 'ok' and can be me and my friends' topic of conversation. During secondary school, criteria of like/"love" most of the times still depends on how hard your heart beats when you are near the guy or like in the movie "Crazy little thing called love", how often you want to walk pass his class just to catch a glimpse of him.
Moving to high school, things were getting slightly more serious. We still admired good-looking guys, hearts were beating fast when you are near the guy that you think you like, but whether you like the guy or not doesn't depend on different stories. Some friends used to not like the guy that at the end became their boyfriends, it's just that my friends' heart melted after these guys' perseverance. Hence, conversation evolved to how these guys have successfully made the girls smile and love them. Unfortunately, some guys are not thankful enough that my friends at the end melted and loved them back. These are the guys who just chase girls for the sake of the fun of 'chasing'. Stupid guys! (oops, sorry...disclaimer: not all guys are bad, not all girls are good). Some other friends had complicated situations due to the existing friendship with the guys. One side expected more-than-just-friends, one side is not. Then, our conversation was on hypothesis on "whether-this-guy-likes-me-or-not". There was not any discussion on 'long-term' hope. The maximum vision is up to hoping that the guy likes you back and both of u are attached. Mission accomplished.
Then, we move to university life, the moment when we are not teenagers anymore, when I can't force my age to be "twen-teen". At this stage, though girls do talk about handsome guys, usually we have 2 category of guys: those to be admired only and those to be "loved" (or actually, hoping that this guy loves you.. Someone's mom said: Love a guy that love you more than you love him! --> I forgot whose mom, confirmed a girl's mom). Topics are not on "get-the-guy-to-love-you", but most of the times of "What if..." and "But..." Things like his religion, family background, attitude towards some issues, become a topic of discussion. Definitely things are not fairytales anymore. Discussion starts with an "If..." and ends with a "Just see how and let it flow.." Feelings become deeper, but at the same time, we generally don't want to fall so deep like when we were in high school. We use more empirical evidences to discuss why you should or should not like this particular guy, whether you should or should not keep close with this guy, and what to hope and not to hope.
While we used to refer to magazines and radio when we were high school and secondary school, now we cited parents/uncles/aunties/neighbors, eg "Don't keep in a relationship only with a hope that 'he will change someday' if you know that you can't take that thing because 99.9% people can't change that bad thing whatever it is. Unless you think that you can ACCEPT that particular thing, BREAK OFF the relationship NOW so you don't waste your time."
Anyway, I'll be home SOON! and this time I'm looking forward for one of my best friend's update who was just attached two (?) weeks ago. Well, this is an example of how complicated the situation was. Apparently this guy's name, attitude, background, closeness with my best friend, and so on and so forth have been mentioned in our discussion since MONTHS ago, and only two weeks ago (finally) they became 'official' :P
conversation topics have shifted..
we grow up..
though maybe parents still think that it seems like we don't think about it (or we are still childish coz we scream when we see handsome guys on magazine cover), we do think and talk about it :)
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