Spouses are therefore the permanent reminder to the Church of what
happened on the Cross; they are for one another and for the children
witnesses to the salvation in which the sacrament makes them sharers. Of
this salvation event marriage, like every sacrament, is a memorial,
actuation and prophecy: "As a memorial, the sacrament gives them the
grace and duty of commemorating the great works of God and of bearing
witness to them before their children. As actuation, it gives them the
grace and duty of putting into practice in the present, towards each
other and their children, the demands of a love which forgives and
redeems. As prophecy, it gives them the grace and duty of living and
bearing witness to the hope of the future encounter with Christ."(32) (The Role of the Christian Family in the Modern World, Familiaris Consortio, Pope John Paul II, 1981
Again, I think courtship is a training ground.
If one only expects courtship to be easy and smooth, urgh, that's it.
However, if one stays in a relationship even though he or she "can't love" his or her partner, oh well, I don't think it's healthy too.
My question, what if you don't have the concept of "Cross"?
How do you go through courtship if even though your partner doesn't go to the extreme of expecting a fairytale, he or she just doesn't get it that it takes TWO (in fact THREE) to get to know each other and to prepare for marriage?
How do you go through courtship if your partner stops at the point of "knowing each other" but unwilling to change?
So...I'm that person.. =D *peace*
For those stubborn people out there, we can do a hi-five. Please tick if you think either one of these points:
1. If I change, I'm not myself anymore.
2. You love me? This is ME!!
3. I want to be better, but I'm scared I don't recognize myself after I change
4. Why can't you understand my circumstances?
5. I acted A, but I intended B. Can't you please understand my intention?
So...after that meeting with couple Bernard&Ying to prepare for the Faith and Reason forum organized by Legionaries, I was so touched when Mrs Ying said, "You know what? Marriage is a permanent reminder of the cross. Isn't it beautiful?"
Yes, it's hard to change. It's humiliating. It's painful. It's just...not me..
But it's normal to change.
Doesn't a mother change too? She has her personality, but somehow she changes after she has three children, compared to when she was dating.
It's a maturity process. and it's...
hard.
but there's always hope.
If you don't train NOW, during courtship, then that's it.
But, it doesn't also mean that you expect your partner to change IMMEDIATELY. His defect now will still be more or less the same with his defect 10 or 20 years from now =P So if he's the one, pray that you have the strength to accept him too. To love, is a love without condition. There's no such thing like "I love you IF you a) b) c)". Love is.. "I don't like your c) d) e), I accept you, but let's struggle together to grow together"
<3 p="">
---dedicated to my mom, who has shown me how she showed me example on this 'permanent-reminder-of-the-cross' ----
Again, I think courtship is a training ground.
If one only expects courtship to be easy and smooth, urgh, that's it.
However, if one stays in a relationship even though he or she "can't love" his or her partner, oh well, I don't think it's healthy too.
My question, what if you don't have the concept of "Cross"?
How do you go through courtship if even though your partner doesn't go to the extreme of expecting a fairytale, he or she just doesn't get it that it takes TWO (in fact THREE) to get to know each other and to prepare for marriage?
How do you go through courtship if your partner stops at the point of "knowing each other" but unwilling to change?
So...I'm that person.. =D *peace*
For those stubborn people out there, we can do a hi-five. Please tick if you think either one of these points:
1. If I change, I'm not myself anymore.
2. You love me? This is ME!!
3. I want to be better, but I'm scared I don't recognize myself after I change
4. Why can't you understand my circumstances?
5. I acted A, but I intended B. Can't you please understand my intention?
So...after that meeting with couple Bernard&Ying to prepare for the Faith and Reason forum organized by Legionaries, I was so touched when Mrs Ying said, "You know what? Marriage is a permanent reminder of the cross. Isn't it beautiful?"
Yes, it's hard to change. It's humiliating. It's painful. It's just...not me..
But it's normal to change.
Doesn't a mother change too? She has her personality, but somehow she changes after she has three children, compared to when she was dating.
It's a maturity process. and it's...
hard.
but there's always hope.
If you don't train NOW, during courtship, then that's it.
But, it doesn't also mean that you expect your partner to change IMMEDIATELY. His defect now will still be more or less the same with his defect 10 or 20 years from now =P So if he's the one, pray that you have the strength to accept him too. To love, is a love without condition. There's no such thing like "I love you IF you a) b) c)". Love is.. "I don't like your c) d) e), I accept you, but let's struggle together to grow together"
<3 p="">
---dedicated to my mom, who has shown me how she showed me example on this 'permanent-reminder-of-the-cross' ----
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