Today I had dinner with Pheara (whom I always called: Pheara pheara whatever will be will be). It was only a short 60 minute, but I am glad that we talked about 'serious stuff'.
I could not talk 'like that' to many people.
We talked about "love".
disclaimer: this post is not about my conversation with Pheara, but our conversation makes me want to write about this topic.
The basic questions that I used to ask since I was young(er) was: "How do you know if you love someone? How do you know if that someone loves you too?" Well, when I was secondary school, it's not "love", but "like".
But even when I was still in high school, I knew that I 'love' someone when I didn't think about myself anymore and when I just thought "whatever the best for him". I did not know so much about 'love'. When I broke up with that person that I 'loved', in the middle of my cry, my mom said, "It's okay. Just think about it as an English course, it's time to go up to the higher level." I cried louder after that but was a bit like, "whattt?? analogy of breaking up with English course??" Hahaha. Anyway, I can't forget that sentence!! I also repeat that sentence to other people who experience broken heart.
Me and my beloved girl friends love axioo, a wedding photography blog. Hahaha. No matter how other people teased us for looking at this blog soooo often, we don't care. We just love the blog! Recently, I saw a post titled, "It's in the little things". Let me copy-paste a paragraph from the description of the photo:
Well, it's not that we girls want guys write song for us, played piano for us (*cough once*, according to my friend, having a boyfriend who can play piano doesn't mean that he'll play piano for you), but it's precisely in the "paying attention to her that make her feel like she's so special" (the same thing applies to girl-to-guy).
It's in the little things...
Perhaps it's in the morning SMS..
or a simple "Have you eaten?" (Is it only Indonesian culture? We used to think that one way to know whether a guy likes you or not is whether he has messaged you "have you eaten?")
Though sometimes the 'language of love' might not synchronize with each other :P
a simple "I miss you" even though you've just met last night (*cough once* yeah guys, I know you think it's silly, but it's how we girls being sweet :) )
Perhaps it's an effort to do something that you don't like but the other likes (eg karaoke) *evil laugh*
Or reading (stalking) your 'target' 's blog to know more about him? (*wink to Nic*)
But but but...sometimes we forget these little things :( Thought these things are the things that keep the 'sparks' between you two.
At the end of the day, my principle is still the same: you know you love someone when you want the best for him. Citing Sherina, my friend, it is "reaching a higher dream with another person". Other people might call this thing as a 'stupid' thing. Some other people might call this thing as a 'silly' thing, but for people who understand what love is, what a vocation of marriage is, it's not a 'compromise of your personal dream', but a 'sacrifice of your own dream for a better dream with another person'. Okay, I've written some thoughts on it in my Indonesian blog, so sorry that I won't write it here. Hehehe.
yeah, tell me what can a 22-year-old-'girl' talk about 'love'?
I dunno.
Hahaha.
Well, this post is going nowhere. I hope these bits and pieces are useful. Hahaha.
I could not talk 'like that' to many people.
We talked about "love".
disclaimer: this post is not about my conversation with Pheara, but our conversation makes me want to write about this topic.
The basic questions that I used to ask since I was young(er) was: "How do you know if you love someone? How do you know if that someone loves you too?" Well, when I was secondary school, it's not "love", but "like".
But even when I was still in high school, I knew that I 'love' someone when I didn't think about myself anymore and when I just thought "whatever the best for him". I did not know so much about 'love'. When I broke up with that person that I 'loved', in the middle of my cry, my mom said, "It's okay. Just think about it as an English course, it's time to go up to the higher level." I cried louder after that but was a bit like, "whattt?? analogy of breaking up with English course??" Hahaha. Anyway, I can't forget that sentence!! I also repeat that sentence to other people who experience broken heart.
Me and my beloved girl friends love axioo, a wedding photography blog. Hahaha. No matter how other people teased us for looking at this blog soooo often, we don't care. We just love the blog! Recently, I saw a post titled, "It's in the little things". Let me copy-paste a paragraph from the description of the photo:
"I
think we all have to learn to take our cues from Lawrence. I love how
he makes Livia feel special. It’s always in the little things he does to
remind her that he loves her. Starting from the way he proposed to her
at a cinema. He booked an entire cinema for the occasion, wrote her a
song, played the piano, and made a short video clip out of it which
showed at the cinema he reserved – all as a surprise for her! He has
definitely raised the bar on hunting, I tell you! He
doesn't stop there, it's just the little things he does, paying
attention to her that make her feel like she's so special. It’s
not as if she doesn’t know that she’s special to him, but it’s the
desire to constantly remind her, through the little things, that makes
it all so very special. Thank you for the inspiration, Lawrence!"
It's in the little things...
Perhaps it's in the morning SMS..
or a simple "Have you eaten?" (Is it only Indonesian culture? We used to think that one way to know whether a guy likes you or not is whether he has messaged you "have you eaten?")
Though sometimes the 'language of love' might not synchronize with each other :P
a simple "I miss you" even though you've just met last night (*cough once* yeah guys, I know you think it's silly, but it's how we girls being sweet :) )
Perhaps it's an effort to do something that you don't like but the other likes (eg karaoke) *evil laugh*
Or reading (stalking) your 'target' 's blog to know more about him? (*wink to Nic*)
But but but...sometimes we forget these little things :( Thought these things are the things that keep the 'sparks' between you two.
At the end of the day, my principle is still the same: you know you love someone when you want the best for him. Citing Sherina, my friend, it is "reaching a higher dream with another person". Other people might call this thing as a 'stupid' thing. Some other people might call this thing as a 'silly' thing, but for people who understand what love is, what a vocation of marriage is, it's not a 'compromise of your personal dream', but a 'sacrifice of your own dream for a better dream with another person'. Okay, I've written some thoughts on it in my Indonesian blog, so sorry that I won't write it here. Hehehe.
yeah, tell me what can a 22-year-old-'girl' talk about 'love'?
I dunno.
Hahaha.
Well, this post is going nowhere. I hope these bits and pieces are useful. Hahaha.
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