Friday, June 7, 2013

Let's talk about fatherhood (2)

Various psychological studies have shown the important role of father. In early years, there's a difference between Mom's style of play and Father's style of play and the combination of both affects the development of the children. For example, father loves to "throw-his-baby-to-the-air" game. My boss also mentioned a study about how father's education level has more significant correlation with children's vocabulary (compared to mother's education level!). She said, one possible explanation is because father spends less time at home, he may not be aware of what words the children have learned and what words the children have not learned, so unconsciously he speak more novel words than mother. (And father's education level affects the variety of words that he uses with the child).

Interestingly, some studies also show that girls unconsciously look for partner who has similarities with their father. (I'm sorry I can't remember the details). There was a very interesting video on this topic. Oh well, since I can't find the video, here is an article on Daddies' Girls Choose Men Just Like Their Fathers

I don't think my boyfriend looks like my dad, but they have some similarities. Here is a scenario:

I was staying with my parents in a hotel when they came to Singapore for my commencement. I put a small bag filled with my cloth at the side of the bed I think. Then my dad said, "Why do you put it there? Just put it here lah" (he moved it to the shelf). At that point of time, I was like, "huh, why sounds so familiar?" The first thought that came to my mind that time was he sounds like Paul. For four years I've been living alone without anyone 'complaining' on orderliness, so initially whatever Paul advises on "order" sounds very novel and can be irritating sometimes (even though he's correct. Oops!). Nevertheless, apparently he and my dad are just two people that really pay attention to the importance of keeping things tidy. (My goodness, am I a girl? so messy. hahaha)

They love nature. It's so 'normal' to hear Paul talks about crabs, birds, trees, mountains, etc as he's doing animal behaviour and he also does rock climbing, as normal as how my dad talks about plants and dogs.

So yeah... how important it is for fathers to spend time with  their children. They also affect the children's life so much!! :)


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