Special post for and about my brother :)

let's give it a try =P

1. Dear my brother, the most memorable thing that you did for me was when you tried to glue back my stone necklace!! We were very young that time, but I was so touched that after I accidentally dropped my necklace and broke the stone because I was rushing, when I came back from English course you already glued it again!!!

2. He's really talented in drawing Manga (Japanese cartoon) =P

3. Once he said, he doesn't need his future wife to be able to cook well, as long as the wife can fry a chicken for him =P

4. Thank you Bro for giving me tips to exercise and cut down my tummy size (sorry, I don't persevere in those torturing exercises!)

5. He's crazy with bikes >.< well, next time we should travel together. I trek up, and you do your mountain biking

6. He eats a lot (yes, go and be friend with Paul tomorrow onwards in Bali)

7. This year, he's been the one reminding me to buy gift for my parents. He's actually a sweet boy. Hahaha. Once he ordered bouquet of flowers for our mom

8. When he was in kindergarten, he has a hard time waking up to school. He would just move from our bed to the living room, and my parents cajoled him that they would buy him hermit crabs (keong!) that were sold outside school if he wanted to wake up

9. As little girl and little boy, we used to fight a lot. When we fought, I would say very very evil thing like, "I wish I don't have brother!!" well, now, I really feel thankful that I have my 'little' brother

10. In high school, once my friend thought my brother is my boyfriend because he's much taller than me. >.<

11. He knows about gadget A LOT!!! He needs to push me to buy a better phone. I didn't follow his advice early this year, now I regret

12. He has a very nice handwriting. But...he doesn't write nicely most of the time. He can, if he wants!!

13. Thank you for driving me at 5.30 am every day to Church last August =P

14. Thank you for accompanying me to learn driving even though you feel like vomitting every time you sit in the driving-lesson-car

15.  He's not a fan of soccer

16. He has good taste in fashion. I'd better bring him when I do my shopping. He used to complain about my bad sense of fashion, "The clothes in Singapore are so nice!! Why are your clothes like that????!!!" Oh well, now I think my brother was right. Hahahaha.

17. He used to play guitar!

18. My brother is quite muscular now. Can you believe that he was superskinny before????!!

19. Once he thought of studying in Medical school, but my parents asked him to think carefully. Thank God he listened to my parents. He loves drawing and there he is now, studying Architecture :)

20. When he was in kindergarten, he used to color a cup with black. A messy black. Mom asked, "Why do you color it like that?" My brother answered,"The coffee spilled all over the place."

21. He's quite self-conscious that he's already 21 this year. In August, instead of teasing me that I'm already 23, he said, "How ah...I'm 21 this year. How ah..." =P

Dear Ferditius Bernardus a.k.a. Adot, Happy Birthday!!!! :):) May you grow closer to God :)Thank you for being my 'little' brother!

Chika, me, Richa, my brother!

7 Quick Takes Friday Vol. 26

I finally write my Quick Takes! Merry Christmas!!! =)
First of all (stealing one point of Quick Takes =P), please help me to pray for baby Judith. It's her first Christmas in this world :):) She's my Legionary friend's baby and she's been fighting her swollen liver.

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This is my first Christmas in Singapore!! It turned out to be...amazing!! =) I went to Christmas Eve Mass with Paul at the study centre where he usually goes for formation. I met Fr Joe there, and he asked me, "How are you?" I answered, "Well, this is my first Christmas away from home!" Fr replied, "Life changes, this is home." Tetotttt..KO. Hahaha. He's right. =P

First Christmas together! with our friend's Christmas tree at the study centre =P

The funny thing was, I met some girls of the girls club with their family. One of the girls stood beside me with her signature smile, "Who is that guy?" (referring to Paul). I said, "This is my boyfriend." "You never told us you have boyfriend!!" A few seconds later, the little sister of this girl came and gave another signature smile, "We never know you have boyfriend." I replied, "I told you in June camp, but you forgot." Yeah...so now they know Paul too. They called me "Tita Ferninda" (Tita in Tagalog language means 'aunty'), so they called Paul, "Tito Paul" (Uncle Paul) hahahahaha.

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On Christmas day, we had Christmas gathering at my house. Joanne, my roommate was our chef. It was a very nice experience. My colleagues came too. We all watched "It's a wonderful life" :) One of my friend cried watching the ending of the movie (I held my tears, embarrassed =P ). Oh btw, my piano teacher came to Singapore to travel last week :) We had a great time eating at Founder Bakut Teh near Paul's house :)

Joanne, my roommate, our chef!

Our simple Christmas tree

Housemates+colleagues+hostel friends :)

My piano teacher with her three kids, me, and Paul

At the Bakut Teh. Btw, her three kids' name formed "Do Re Mi" (michael alDo, RAchel, MIchelle --> youngest to oldest)

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Poor NUS students, they got their exam results on Christmas eve!! I was trying to console my friend in NUS on Christmas Eve because she didn't get the result that she expected. I hope things turned out okay!I tried to convince her to continue honours year.

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So..here comes my friend's wedding which made me stay back during Christmas =) It was a beautiful wedding indeed. Something in the Archbishop's homily struck me, "You are unique delicate Catholic young adult. Thank you for your family!" (sorry, can't remember the exact sentence). They have families with strong values :) I also enjoyed their wedding banquet. I could really feel that they are surrounded by close friends, and TRUE friends. The girlfriend of a guest, sitting at the same table with me, cried a bit as she watched the wedding video and heard the speech of the bridegroom. In the video, you can see how the bride whispered "I love you" to her father. Every time I see the bride's father's eyes, I can't help to think how touching it is to see how happy the father is. The husband of this friend is Indonesian (my friend is a Singaporean), so after Mass, they did the rite of asking blessing and saying thanks to the parents (there's no such thing in normal wedding Mass in Singapore). As usual, I cried a bit too. I mean, no matter whether you are Indonesian, Singaporean, or whatever nationality, your parents played an important role in planting the seeds of your vocation. It's sooooooooo beautiful :)

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My brother will turn 21 tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!! tsk tsk..not a little boy anymore..

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Last Friday I finally went to teach Ryan again. I read him "Guess how much I love you" =P he's kinda like it :)

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So yeah..I'm going to Bali tomorrow :) So no Quick Takes next week. After Bali trip, we all will do another roadtrip to Cisantana, Kuningan (West Java) for pilgrimage to a shrine of Our Lady. I'm really looking forward for this vacation!

Happy New Year!!

More quick takes at Jen's blog!!

Hold my hand

I'm always struck by the scene of elderly couple. This morning, as I was crossing the road to Church, an elderly man gave his hand to his wife to help her as they crossed the road together.
Another time in the same church, I saw another elderly man, had difficulty in walking, but he himself pushing the wheelchair of his wife. He also tried to help his wife sit in the pew. After the Mass ended, he was helping his wife to transfer to wheelchair again, and this time some other parishioners were helping them.

It's amazing. I've never known how long they have been together, yet you could see the love in each of them.
It's just so beautiful, and as I see them, I pray for other young married couples to be granted the graces to persevere in their calling. Truly these grandparents have been true witness of faithfulness and True Love without even realizing it :)

Praying for fidelity to our vocation

One of my new year's resolutions is to pray for fidelity to my vocation every day. Well, to be honest, sometimes I forgot about it. However, after what has happened in this past year, I am really reminded that vocation is really a gift from God.

Firstly, it's so beautiful to see the path that God wants for us (thanks to God's grace). This really reminds me not to complain too much because at the end of the day, I want to see my vocation and I thank God that He let me see this light.

Secondly, this calling can't be taken for granted. There are many ways in which I'm not thankful of this gift, for example, when I'm selfish, when I am not grateful with my boyfriend and demand too much from him, when I complain to God when I need to sacrifice something (especially time!!) to do apostolate, and so on and so forth. So as Christmas is coming and end of year is coming too, I really think I should remind myself more to be more thankful and to fulfill the duties of my state better (as a not-married-yet 'lady' *cough...I want to say 'girl', but not suitable anymore* )

Mother Mary, pray for us! :)

Missing pieces: November-December

Oh well, I feel like taking revenge today! (with 3 posts in one shot)

This is my last post before I'm going to iron my clothes (this is another 'revenge' of ironing =P)
I finally tried my first ever flower arrangement :)
Well, it's a 'false-start' to start with round arrangement. When I did this, I imagined there was a semi-circular line on the vase and my flowers need to 'hit' that imaginary line so it can form a perfect round. However, as you can see, some flowers were higher than the others. Some flowers were also squeezed!! (sorry flowers!)
I didn't have many options as the leaves. Those smaller flowers that I used as leaves were more expensive than the chrysanthemum!!! >.<

The other side of the arrangement. OOps, sorry for the bag. I was just coming back from Legion meeting

Dessert at Hillcrest Study Centre for the Feast of Immaculate Conception. Yummy!!

The last session with Ryan in November. I haven't seen him again since our visit to dinosaur exhibition. He's so creative, the 'pyramid-like' feature is a bus stop for him. Tsk tsk. Cool!

and he attempted to take photo of me. Unstable hand =P

Interesting Churches in North Sumatera,Indonesia :)

My parents recently travelled to North Sumatera Province in Indonesia. When we travelled, we used to think that "It's okay to miss Mass on vacation". The good news is, my parents have been travelling with Catholic neighbours who know that we shouldn't miss Mass, so there she went: attending Sunday Mass even though she's on vacation =)

So...I requested her to take photos of the Church. The Masses at St Francis of Assisi, Berastagi (note that this Church is not located in Medan, but in another town called Berastagi) are held every Sunday at 8am and 6pm.

Church of St Francis of Assisi (Gereja Santo Fransiskus Assisi)

Rumah Gadang, the traditional house of Minang people. Look at the roof!

Inside the Church of St Francis of Assisi

This Church below was built in Indian style :) It's located in Medan, the capital city of North Sumatera province, Indonesia. I didn't know that there is the title Our Lady of Good Health!! Mom said that this church was built by Indians (I haven't found any reliable sources about this Church). However, this title is based on the apparition of Our Lady in Vailankanni, India.

Graha Maria Annai Velangkanni (Maria Annai Velangkani = Our Lady of Good Health)

 And of course, there are more things to see in Berastagi and Medan =) Just in case you're wondering, in North Sumatera, there's this famous Lake Toba in which an island is located IN the middle of the lake. (yes, a small island in the middle of the lake). The island's name is Samosir Island (Pulau Samosir). I'm not sure if my parents went there, but my colleague went there before and she said it's beautiful :)

Did they color-code on purpose?? >.< It's my mom who likes yellow. Oh well, this happens when your wife is the one packing your clothes =P

Yeah..for this, I guess, it's my dad who initiates this pose. Mom doesn't like motorbike =P

Mom's Patchwork: December

My mom loves to send me her patchwork photos =)
Here are some of her latest masterpieces:

cushion covers :)

Each Christmas tree is a coaster!! 

ps. I need to ask my mom to send not-so-blur photos >.<

7 Quick Takes Friday - Vol.25

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I disappeared last week for Girls' Camp! It was tiring, but I think I'm kinda 'used to the girls'. A couple lent their house to us (yes, to "us" --> 15 primary school girls + 2 adults). So niceeee!! So we kept telling the girls to take care of the house. (Well, they tried their best)

It's better than renting a chalet, because this house is a home :) It's naturally homey and of course they have stuff here and there (so no kids do cartwheel in the house). They had water feature in the first level (Thank God without any fish, because the kids soaked their legs in the 'pond' as if they were going for fish spa).

They performed Annie! So nice! I was quite touched when they sang Tomorrow ^^ They were very talented!!

Ohh..one of the mothers taught the girls to cook carbonara for dinner, to prepare breakfast for the Saturday morning, and to bake pizza for Saturday night!! (I learned a bit too, these girls were much much much better than me). They loved cheese a lot, so me and Marie didn't have much cheese left on our pizza. However, one of the girls was so generous in 'donating' cheese for us =P They were very sweet. On the last day of camp (the performance day), one of the mothers asked me, "How are the girls? Are they well-behaved? Are they naughty?" To be honest, I think they are okay :) Even though it's quite tiring to go up and down the house because when I said "It's your group's turn to clean up, right?" some of them would say, "later" and how I was a bit frustrated that some of them told ghost stories and the smaller girls were scared while I tried to figure out how to switch on the light again, I think they are nice girls :):) Naughty is definitely not a way to describe them. They're just a little bit messy (like me!!!). How patient my mom is...nah, now I know >.<

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End of year is coming, so I've been thinking of my past resolutions. When people ask whether I have accomplished my resolutions, I can't say much because my resolutions are concrete habits that I want to foster throughout the year. There were months when the resolutions are accomplished, there were also months when I just forgot about it (or tried to do it, but failed).

I think so far, my most accomplished resolutions were the exercise and the cutting-down of MacDonalds =P At least I'm more aware of the importance of these two =P

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I've just finished Brideshead Revisited (ps. how to pronounce "Brideshead" properly? Is it "bride-shead" or "Brides-head"?) I didn't enjoy the book at the beginning, but I was just curious and couldn't wait to see where this friendship between Sebastian and Charles led them into. I started to feel 'awake' after the scene of meal between Sebastian, Charles, Cordelia, and Brideshead. I imagine Cordelia (Sebastian's younger sister) as a sweet girl (well, for that scene, I imagine her a bit like one of the girls in the girls' club) and how she innocently said, "I'll pray for you, Charles". I laughed alone too when she said that she'll just offer a decade of Rosary daily cos she got a long list to pray for. Hahaha.

I did enjoy the description of the setting, especially Sebastian's house! However, due to my poor vocabulary (and again, laziness to look up meaning of new words in dictionary), I don't think I imagine it 'accurately'. I wonder how Charles' painting really looks like!

And.........I enjoyed the 'drama' of Sebastian's family. It's like, hmmm, how to say, just 'watching' a normal family. I'm quite impressed by Lady Marchmain's "little chat" with Charles. Well, it's not something that my mom does with my friend, but her relationship with even her son's friend is not something beyond imagination for me after I see how the mothers of the girls in the girls' club take care of 'the soul of their daughters' friends' too. There's an openness and a real concern about Charles in Lady Marchmain.

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So now, I'm taking a 'break' by reading Peter Pan =)
It's like catching up on English children books because I didn't have chance to read before =P
The 'problem' is..the reason I read quite fast is because I read my novels on my way (even as short as from bus stop to office), for example, on MRT. Today I have been smiling (with a big smile) as I was reading on the MRT. Hehehe. --> crazy!

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Ahhh it's so nice to have a weekend!
This week has been tough. Well, I think my colleagues have been working very hard and I should've worked harder >.< It's really challenging to keep awake after lunch and sometimes I felt a bit feverish, or I had enough sleep but I woke up feeling a bit dizzy.

1.5 more weeks to Christmas!!
It's too fast!! I haven't done anything!!!

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A good news this week: I managed to scrub the bathroom (including the hidden corners). I felt sooooooooooo happy. You know, after you constantly need to remind the girls to clean up and put order in the house during camp, you feel so ashamed of not putting order in your OWN house (that's what I feel!). I really need to make a routine. This week, I tried to clean little by little. I'm not that super-clean yet, but at least, know scrubbing toilet bowl is an automatic thing for me.

The thing is..I need to be realistic at the same time. I shouldn't find excuses, but cleaning schedule for a single-full-time employees-living-with-3-busy-housemates is different from a full-time homemaker's schedule. My mistake is, I find it very annoying and difficult to sacrifice my going-out time to clean up my room. However, at the same time, I find it depressing to have a messy room (or house). So yeah..the aim now is at least I must spare time to clean my own ROOM properly, and try to clean the other parts of the house bit by bit every day. Clean joyfully!! =) It struck me a lot when the Gospel reflection on the Feast of Our Lady of Loreto mentioned "Put an element of sacrifice in things that we do at our home." Wow...it's true. When you're happy and energetic, it's easy to empty your rubbish bin. When you go home late and tired, emptying rubbish bin is a BIG thing. It does need a sacrifice, but if we do it cheerfully and offer it up for Our Lord, it is a humble but beautiful offering too :)

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Yesterday me and my friends watched Singapore Symphony Orchestra.
As I was watching the concert last night, something that made me sad  is the fact that I won't be home for Christmas. Yes yes I know that this time I'll spend Christmas with my boyfriend (and I'm very grateful that we can spend Christmas together), but it's still different. Anyway, I'll invite my colleagues to my house to celebrate Christmas with my housemates too. :):)

More quick takes at Jen's blog!! Oh, I forgot to share the link to 7QT two weeks ago!!

7 Quick Takes Friday - Vol. 24

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Time flies!! Tomorrow is the last day of November!!
I know that many bloggers who visit each other's blogs do pray for each other, especially those from Jen's blog. I would like to request a prayer for my friends' newborn, baby Judith. She has this condition called multiple hepatic hemangiomas and she has been in ICU for almost 3 months since she was born.

www.judithgianna.wordpress.com

Please pray hard for her as her condition has been very unstable this week. My friend wrote this blog about her journey.

She's very beautiful, isn't she?
I sent the link of the blog to my mom and my mom's response was: 1) she's pretty! 2) Amazing girl.
I think my mom can see how this little girl is really really a strong girl.

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This evening I watched an end-of-year concert that was organized by one of the preschools that we're collaborating with. The pattern of the show is when the kids danced, their eyes would search for their parents and once their eyes found the parents, they would smile bigger and their eyes sparkled :)

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Two weeks ago I attended Sunday Mass at Paul's parish. Some kids came to the church bringing an origami work. They were busy protecting the origami until their parents must remind them to focus in the Mass.
Sometimes...I feel that we behave like those kids. We forget which is more important and we are distracted by the less important things, perhaps by prioritizing ourselves than God or by playing with our phone when we're talking to our friends.

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I've been thinking about what people actually mean by "human dignity".

I've recently seen how the mothers I know interact with a little girl who has a face tumor (half of her face is disfigured). I think..this is what the Church teaches as "human dignity". These other mothers treat this little girl just like any other girls. There's no eyes of pity or looking down or "poor you!" but just Love. Love her as how Christ loves us, love her as how they love other little kids. It's very beautiful and this is a good reminder for me.

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I finally bought the foam for flower arrangement! Next, I need to buy the flowers =P

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This week Paul's aunt lent him her car because his aunt is overseas. So...few days ago we could go to other place for lunch! I was super-happy. Hahahaha. First, because it's been hard to meet him because he was on military service for three weeks. Second, I was superbored with the food in my canteen. People say that girls should win guy's heart from his stomach, I think the other way round works too! I feel super-happy and loved when my tummy is happy =D

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It's time to think of Advent resolution =)

More quick takes at Jen's blog :)

Missing Quick Takes

Hi...

I missed my Quick Takes again. I accidentally left my laptop in Paul's bag on Saturday, so I didn't have chance to write over the weekend.

Updates for this week:
1. My confessor for the past 2.5 years is needed back in Spain.
We all said, "So fast! Father is only here for 2.5 years," and he said, "Everyone says so. Hahaha"
I felt sad, but not sad. I mean, this is the first time I go confession regularly to the same priest, so there's a little feeling of sadness, but I know I shouldn't be sad. I feel very grateful that a few months ago, during a formation session, my formator has reminded us not to say things like "My spiritual director is Ms A or Fr B" because I used to do that! Hahaha. However, she told us that our spiritual director is not the individual. As spiritual direction is one type of formations, we can say that we receive spiritual direction from ____ (name of congregation or organization). This has helped me to not feel so sad (even though I still cried after going for confession for the last time to Father! Phew, at least this time I didn't cry in confessional 'as usual') hahaha

2. I dreamed that I went to India (again). Actually, it was not a beautiful dream because in my dream, someone tried to kill me >.< what a dream....
I do hope one day I can go back to India!! Hopefully Shimla! :)

3. Yesterday my friends organized 'documentary'-screening on "Keys to Happy Marriage". We borrowed the DVD from a priest, and today I tried to google it. You can buy the file from vimeo!
http://vimeo.com/ondemand/happymarriage

We watched the first four episodes only (there are 12 episodes in total). I think it's a good reminder for me, to remind me why I'm in a relationship and what is needed in a marriage. Not easy, but at least I understand more in which area I should struggle more in a relationship :)

--- last week of November ---

ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!

F(e)ast

As I was walking up to print on the third level of my office and thinking of today's feast (Presentation of Our Lady),something struck my mind:

There's only one letter difference between FEAST and FAST

Amazing. Hahaha.

It's uncommon to associate Lent with fasting and penance. As Christmas is coming soon, it's a gentle reminder to do lots of penance for our preparation to welcome Our Lord =D

What it means to be single

When I say "single" in this post, it means "not married", whether an individual is attached or not.

I've read an awesome post on the Catholic Young Women about the beautiful period called singlehood: on friendship that we form in this period of time. Unfortunately, I can't remember the title of the post. Anyway, let's talk about being single.

Some people look at being single as 'happy-go-lucky', but this term has a negative connotation. I would say that as single people, we're happy people =D (when we're married or not later on, depending on our vocation, we're still happy too, as long as that what God wants for us). 'happy-go-lucky' is usually defined as..hmmm, let me think. Do you whatever you want to do? Go wherever you want to go?

(Un)fortunately, this period is also a period in which we have a HUGE responsibility, just like the married life. During a formation session, a lady told me and Krizia, that apostolate is like another child for us. Since we still do not have children yet, we need to do LOTS of apostolate now, at this moment, as single ladies. It doesn't mean that when we're married, we don't do apostolate anymore, but the form of the apostolate will change. When we are married, the main apostolate is our family. However now, is a time to reach out to many people and nurture special friendships when we are generally more 'available'.

I (used to) like to complain (I used 'brackets' because I do still complain) about Paul's or my packed schedule. The thing is..we still can make time for each other, so there's no reason to complain =P However, I (used to) often complain:
1. My Saturdays are gone!!
2. Why can't we be like other couples?? Just go watch movie, no need to think about a, b, c.
(We watch fewer than four movies per year)

My Saturdays used to be very 'sacred'. You can cancel meeting me on other days, but NOT on Saturday evenings. I'll be super-grumpy and I'll say nasty things. (oh yeah...public holiday too!!)
It used to be easy. I used to have options: meet Friday + Saturday + Sunday or either two. Now we meet Friday / Saturday / Sunday --> choose one.

The good news is..I'm happy. We are happier. Not because we desperately want to get rid of each other or have our own personal time more, but because making time for other friends makes me focus on other people. Fr Mario is right. One way to kill the pride is firstly, pray and sacrifice more for other people. It's not that I don't struggle anymore, I do still feel upset when I'm tired, when I feel that it's so difficult to have my own time (or dating time!), when there is... change of plan (this one is still a HUGE stumbling block for me), and I can just break down and cry because of silly things. However, I thank God that He let me see how beautiful this period of living as a single lady (I wanted to write "girl", but *cough* not a girl anymore). This is a once-in-a-lifetime moment too. When I can spend time with my girl friends chatting and consoling each other, talking about our hopes and dreams, when I can spend afternoons with the cheerful (= noisy) little girls, when I can just have a quick dinner with my close friend before heading home, this is not what the world calls 'happy-go-lucky'. We are married for a mission, we are (still) single also for a mission :)

So yeah...how have you taken care of your "children"? :)

7 Quick Takes Friday Vol. 23

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I missed quick takes last Friday. Can I double today's post to 14 Quick Takes? Hahaha.
Anyway, reading progress: zero. I haven't continued reading my Brideshead Revisited. Perhaps I'm too frustrated with many unfamiliar words =P

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Last week I taught the girls in the weekly girls club how to make a paper rose :)
This is the first time all girls finished the arts and craft session =P
I still think that my rose was not as pretty as the photos on the original website hahaha, but I love making the rose. I also made the paper rose for my boyfriend (the rose was immediately destroyed by his niece once he reached home because his niece also likes the paper rose --> = played with the rose with a 2-year-old strength and gentleness)

Black : first attempt. White: second attempt

Final result (I changed the centre of the flower)

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After discussing a paper on child's understanding of joint intention in last week's brown bag, my boss shared with us about various research papers done by Michael Tomasello, not only on human infants, but also chimpanzee and dogs. Next week we're going to discuss this paper on how dogs understand imperative pointing.

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Other than transcribing kids' videos for the observation research, I've spent this week doing some literature reviews for my boss on children's code-switching (mixing two different languages in one sentence or saying a sentence in different language after a sentence in another language). My boss has also returned the paper draft for the elderly project. LOTS of corrections need to be made. Btw, I've found statistics hell website by Andy Field is very useful. I don't really have experience in doing non-parametric statistics, but his website provided good information on various statistical methods and how to interpret the SPSS output.

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I enjoyed my Spanish lessons so far. My favorite words: Zapatos (shoes), because it sounds like "Sepatu" (shoes in Indonesian language) and Cena (dinner). I also love learning how to pronounce "ll" (pronounce it as 'y') so now I can call "Iker Casillas" properly. (he's a goalkeeper by the way...)

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Somehow, I felt the urge to try to do some flower arrangement. Once I saw a very beautiful flower arrangement at a study centre run by Opus Dei. I knew that the women who took care of the study centre are very good in flower arrangement and cooking. I should learn from them. Hehehe. I didn't know that flower arrangement has some basic shapes till I googled it =P

at the study centre :)

Anyway, let's see if I really try to do flower arrangement anytime soon.

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I ate my second MacDonalds this month. Resolution failed again >.<
It's 1.5 month to end of 2013 and it's just two more weeks to Advent! Advent is coming!! ('coming' is coming!). My mom said that to make patchwork, I can just use running stitch. So maybe there's a hope for me to self-study patchwork. Anyway, before I start making this and that, I think I should put more effort to clean up my house more regularly >.<

Hmm, how about this Christmas stocking for a starting point? It looks a bit complicated though, so many squares! =P

More quick takes at Jen's blog!!

7 Quick Takes Friday - Vol. 22

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Somehow it's been a tiring week. I received so much sad news for the past few weeks. My friend who was five month pregnant lost her baby and two friends' grandfathers passed away. Anyway, I always thought that their grandfathers were very blessed because many of us pray for their souls especially yesterday and this month. My maternal grandma passed away in November 2007. I always thought that she was blessed too because we remember to pray more for her soul in this month that the Church always dedicates for the souls in purgatory.

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Regarding my friend whose baby just passed away, I was quite affected because this is the first time my own friend was the one experiencing this. I also has a doubt whether the doctor has given her full information about options of treatment and I was not sure if the doctor aborted the baby or the doctor asked her that giving birth prematurely is the only option. Please pray for my friend. She's been waiting for one year and three months ago she happily told me that this baby is a wedding anniversary gift from God. The day before the baby died, she was also still happily posting on facebook, "No salt for the next 2.5 months!! All the best!" (because she was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and her blood pressure reached 190!)

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Yesterday the girls' club (the primary school girls' activity on Saturdays) had biathlon challenge. I was so amazed by the family's support. The mothers or fathers ran as pacers to encourage the girls to keep running =P This was also the first time I met the parents of the girls with their other daughters/sons (it became like a family picnic!). And now I realize that I shouldn't complain because these mothers make lots of sacrifices on Saturdays (and other days =P), e.g., sending the little girl to a place for formation session for the little girls, then driving the elder sister to the Primary 3 - Primary 6 girls' club, then sending the boy the boys' club. Hahaha. :) Some of these mothers are very involved in planning the girls' club!! (While sometimes I just keep complaining in my heart, "Where's my used-to-be-happy Saturdays????") Anyway, I'm happy with the girls too on Saturdays. They teach me lots of things. Have I told you that I lost my scissors and I told about this to the girls? One of the girls said, "Ferninda, you must take care of your stuff." (same thing with what the people told me with regards to virtue of poverty, taking care of your stuff so it lasts longer!) Thumbs-up for the girls :)

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One more month to Bali trip!!! I can't wait!!

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On Tuesday, I watched "For the greater glory", a Mexican movie about the civil war in 1929. It's super cruel!!

I've been reading about civil war in Spain through the biography of St. Josemaria or Don Alvaro (soon Blessed Don Alvaro!!). Watching this movie knocks my head very hard because it reminds me that St. Josemaria was sooooooooooo faithful in the middle of the civil war (in Spain, it was also crazy like in Mexico).

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Anyway, we'll start having Spanish lesson tomorrow!! Ola!!!! =D

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Last two months of 2013. >.<

I wish.........
I could exercise more in these last two months of 2013

and

no more late for Masses. pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!


More quick takes at Jen's blog!!

Useful resource for doctors regarding abortion

clarification: abortion = direct killing of the baby, as a means or an end.

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Last week my friend lost her baby. She was five-months pregnant (almost six months), and my mom messaged me saying that the doctor 'took out' my friend's baby and my mom was going to the baby's funeral. I was so shocked and sad. I thought the baby 'aborted' the baby. (the word 'took out' was a literal translation from Indonesian language. That word usually means to terminate the pregnancy by using abortion.

I was chatting with my friend who just got his title as a 'doctor'. It turned out that for my friend's condition, eclampsia, 'take out' can mean that my friend gave birth and the baby did not survive.

I was confused and scared because I didn't know what doctor really did to my friend and her baby. Did the doctor abort the baby? Or did my friend give birth to the baby and the baby did not survive? Now I just can pray for her and she also said that she would talk to a priest. (I mentioned that only she herself knows the situation and what doctor did, so just tell the whole thing to the priest).

Anyway, because of this situation, I did some search about my friend's condition and I found this website:
http://www.prolifeinfo.ie/women/medical-matters/. I think this is a very useful website for doctors and patients alike. Many people do not know the difference between 'killing' the baby and doing procedure or medical treatment that may cause miscarriage. Many people also still think that the only way to save the mother's life is by killing the baby directly in a lot of cases, but this is not true. Many people are also still trapped in the situation of choosing whose life to be saved, rather than looking at the fact that there are two patients in a pregnant woman situation.

The sad thing is...sometimes I feel that some doctors just do not give a choice for the mother. Not a choice between killing or not killing the baby, but various options of medical or perinatal treatment or procedures. Sometime it's just a matter of time. Let the mother think for a while. Let the mother pray. Let the mother know the various options.

For example, my mom said that there's a situation in which the doctor told my mom's friend, "The baby's heartbeat is very weak. Perhaps you need to abort the baby because he won't survive, but feel free to go to other doctor to check first." This friend went to a second doctor, then the heartbeat of the baby was perfectly fine. Can you imagine what if this friend just followed the doctor's "advice"?

And we have LOTS of other cases, in which doctor said the baby will have hydrocephalus, the baby will be born with physical disabilities, the baby will be born with Down Syndrome, and doctor said, "It's better to abort the baby!". The mom insisted, "No," and it turns out that the babies were born fine and perfectly healthy!!! Of course there are a lot of other cases too in which the babies were really born with Down Syndrome, or with other physical disabilities, but they are humans too. They are loved by their family and they can enjoy the gift of life too. I won't say it's easy. My friend once said that her sister (with Down Syndrome) sometimes made things difficult, but with therapy, her sister know could understand slowly which behaviors are acceptable and which are not.

Anyway, it's just sooooooooo scary that there are many 'hidden abortion' cases. I mean, when people thought about 'abortion', the cases that they often bring up is regarding 'unwanted pregnancy'. However, it seems that there are many cases of abortion in the name of 'saving mother's life' or 'it's better for the baby not to be born rather that born with disabilities.'

Of course, when we talk about choosing a treatment that may cause miscarriage, things are usually more complicated. It's very important for the doctor to try to save both lives first. There's a difference between choosing this option as a 'shortcut' (this is the 'easy' way to save mother's life, I don't want to choose other viable treatment option) compared to choosing this option as 'last resort' (I have two patients here. I need to save both, but the only treatment available is this, e.g., hysterectomy in the case of cervical cancer in pregnant woman.). That's why I think doctors have a really really huge responsibility to learn various medical treatments that can at least lower the risk of miscarriage and as patients, we have an equally huge responsibility to seek complete information about our conditions and the various options of treatment.

7 Quick Takes Friday Vol. 21

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Somehow during a meeting with my bosses and colleague, one of my bosses brought up a question of "going for community project" (i.e., going overseas to build house/school, teaching schools, etc.) We were discussing about the importance of sustainability of this kind of project and we agreed that the people who benefit the most from this project are the volunteers. My boss asked question about, "Where's the local's community voice? Is this kind of programme really beneficial?"

I didn't say a single word. Let me share a little thought about this kind of overseas voluntary project.

I used to have the same opinion too, that this kind of project must be 'sustainable'. It must be beneficial in the long run and it must 'empower' the local community. I'm not sure how people define 'sustainability' or 'benefit' or 'empowerment' in this kind of project, but I believe there are many levels of 'sustainability' and 'benefit'.
Disclaimer: I don't mean that we should ignore the material benefit or practical advantage of this programme to the 'recipient'.

On top of the effort to build well, build school, teach classes, or whatever plan, I think another level of benefit to the local community is to feel that someone out there is caring for you. When I went to Thailand two years ago, the fondest memory of this trip was when a little girl, whose name means 'star' sat on one of my friend's lap. The principal of the school later on told us that there was a problem with her parents, she lived with her aunt. Being able to sit on someone's lap may not give a benefit in the long run, but considering her family background, I do believe that this is 'something' for her.

Even though all of us who went there are Catholics, we didn't go there to baptize them or to force Catholicism on them!! We didn't go there under the banner of "We are from Catholic Church", but we went there just to let them see the reflection of Christ's love and we also found Christ in them. I really need to clarify that not all religious groups go for a mission for their 'own agenda' (whatever it means). Well, I think the agenda to let someone else feels God's love is not a bad agenda, is it?

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My books have arrived. I've just started reading Brideshead Revisited. The words are quite difficult, but yeah, I'm putting effort to read slower this time.

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Today I put this small writing on the edge of laptop "St. Joseph, help me to work hard." Thank God, it's effective. Hahaha. Working hard is still not easy, but God does give us strength when we try to imitate St. Joseph and when we run to St. Joseph.

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Every time someone breaks up, I (this time my other friend is the one who gives the advice) always tried to remind the person who just broke up, that breaking up is like sitting in exam. Once you pass, you are ready for the next level of relationship. This was my mom's advice 5 years ago! I still remember how I was crying and laughing at the same time when she told me this advice. Another important advice that my mom gave was, "Stop hoping that this guy will come back to you." Oh well, let me rephrase the advice. I guess we should hope in the Lord. What I kept telling myself was "This guy is a nice guy, but he's not the RIGHT person." This reminder is used to avoid the mentality of 'hating' the ex-boyfriend, but at the same time to cheer me up that God will show me the RIGHT person.

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Tomorrow Paul's senior will give a talk on oil palm expansion and biodiversity. She did lots of work in Sumatra Island, Indonesia. She's a very nice and adventurous girl! :) Anyway, this talk is organized in relation to UNIV 2014, an annual student gathering in Rome to discuss particular topic of the year. Every year, students from all over the world write paper on a topic and if the paper is selected, they will be invited to Rome!! I regret that I didn't try to write any paper for UNIV when I was undergraduate :( (only undergraduates can submit paper). If your paper is selected, you have chance to meet Holy Father!!! *kyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa* Okay let me rephrase it. It's not only 'meet' or 'see' (using binoculars), but 'granted special audience' by Holy Father!!!!!

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Tomorrow is my colleague's wedding!!! So funny, she sometimes lost her engagement ring at the office (e.g., after washing her hands, she sometimes forgot where she kept the ring). So one day I asked her, "Can't we wear engagement ring as a necklace? I have a feeling one day when I am engaged, I may lose my engagement ring like you." So she said that she tried that before but it was not nice because she couldn't look at it. Anyway, somehow she always found the ring (Thank God!!).

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Next week is November already. AAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!

ps. today's quick takes are hosted by Clan Donaldson :)

Master Plan - when there's a change in the 'master'

One of my biggest struggles is to accept change of plan or schedule. For example, if I already envision in my mind that next weekend I will have time to relax at home before noon time, when I suddenly have another duty on that day, I will be upset.

This is very bad!

Anyway, my post tonight is not about 'little' plan, but 'Master Plan'. Somehow, each person has his or her own 'Master Plan' of his life. When I was eight years old, my plan was to go to our favorite mall every weekend as soon as we moved to Tangerang. Nevertheless, the 1998 riot in Jakarta was sooo bad and...they burned my favorite mall. Well, this is a silly example. I was not throwing tantrum because I couldn't go to my favorite mall anymore (it's already a good thing that our family is safe!), but I remember I said things like, "I used to say I wanted to go to my favorite mall more often when we move to another town which is closer to the mall, but the mall was burned down :( :( " Anyway, the mall was renovated a few years after that. It's not my favorite mall anymore as I grow up because there were too many people going to that mall!! (guess which mall is it? =P)

Okay, let's go to a more serious example.

This past week, I've been receiving sad news here and there. Unexpected things happened to people around me. My housemate's grandpa recently passed away and her parents wanted her to go back to Indonesia for good to accompany her parents. Just a few weeks ago, we were still dreaming of finding new house together next year once our lease of this house ends. But yeah..change of plan. We thought we would at least still have one or two more years together in Singapore, but we do not. I do believe that this is the best for her family and I'll pray for her work in Indonesia! :)

I don't know why but these few days (?) I've been wondering about 'my future'. I sometimes look back and think about my "Master Plan" when I was high school and when I entered university. Being a research assistant has never been in this blue print of mine. However, if you ask me now, do I like this job? Yes!! I don't need to think twice to answer that. I always thought that I wanted to do clinical psychology. However, if you ask me now, do I still want to specialize in this area? To be honest, I don't know. Partly because I have not been working in clinical setting. Another reason was the more I conduct experiment in the kindergartens, the more I go to Ryan's house to read with him, this 5-year-old boy, the more I am interested in early childhood education. I'm a little bit not sure if my interest has shifted. However, when I think about it again, this interest seems a 'refresher' of my past dream to be a teacher. Anyway, I'm really not sure what will happen after my contract ends at the beginning of June next year.

Despite all these changes of this "Master Plan", these memories reminded me of the idea that the designer of this "Master Plan" is God himself, my Father.

I'm so grateful that..hmm, let me try to explain it..somehow God showed me His will through various changes of plan and He kinda shifted my interest. He is not God that forces me by saying, "Hey, don't choose this job!!" or "Hey, choose job C". However, His hand, His Divine Providence, worked very subtly to let me see what I really like, what I really enjoy doing, and these things are somehow contributing to the closeness to God's will.

For example, every one knows that we need to adjust lots of things once we start working. I feel grateful that in my current job, God has given me wonderful colleagues and bosses! Whatever happens in the future, God has shown me a good example of working environment. Another simple thing is the location of my office. It's been a struggle to go for spiritual formation when I moved to my first house in Serangoon, which is quite far from the centre where I go for spiritual formation. Nevertheless, my office is very near from the centre of the spiritual formation!! It's soooo near that I can squeeze spiritual direction session before going to work! Even if next time I'll work at a further location, God has prepared me to build the habit and the rhythm.

Oh yeah, and another change of 'Master Plan' was moving out of the rented big, cozy house in Serangoon to Clementi. However, the current house is nearer to my office and I meet people whom I can talk to about God. We can attend Sunday Masses together :)

So..when things do not go according to my plan, it's good to remember these pieces of memories because my Father has a better plan.

7 Quick Takes Friday - Vol. 20

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Last night me and Paul saw three little kids and their father in adoration room. The oldest boy was around 8 or 9 years old, the second girl was around 7 or 8 years old, and the youngest girl was around 4 years old. Three of them prostrated themselves in front of Our Lord for quite some time. The youngest girl stood up and was about to walk around the room and the second girls said, "No, pray!" So the youngest girl prostrated herself again =P then the youngest girl walked to her dad, who was praying, and asked, "Papa, papa, what's that?" (pointed at the Blessed Sacrament). The father said, "It's Jesus." The little girl walked closer to the Blessed Sacrament with her kneeler and just stared at Jesus. Then the two girls and the father were leaving the room, the second girl said, "Ge ge (elder brother in Chinese), let's go!" The boy was sitting looking at Jesus for a while before he followed them out.

It was very heartwarming to see how these little kids learned to visit Jesus from their parents. I tried to imagine the little girl's admiration towards Jesus during my prayer since last night. Sooo...what's the right word, plain? Innocent? :) Very beautiful!

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I wrote a post on religious climate in Singapore and Indonesia, joining Jen's link up on religious climate in various countries. As I mentioned, Indonesia is not under Shariah Law. The major religion is Islam, but we are not a Muslim country. Interestingly, actually when the founding fathers of our nation discussed about the ideology that we want to use for nation, there was a discussion to put the first principle as "Indonesia is under Shariah Law." However, they decided to use "We believe in One God." We have five principles (Pancasila, Panca = five, Sila = principles) as our ideology. Atheism is kinda not accepted.

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Related to point 2, there's something interesting about "free-thinker-ism" in Indonesia. While in Singapore people openly acknowledge that they are free-thinkers, in Indonesia if you are a non-practicing Buddhist/Christian/Islam/etc, you will still say that you are ______ (your religion that your parents teach you). Just that you may say, "I'm Christian-IC (Only on my IC, but I'm not practicing)" They won't say that "I'm free-thinker".

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My books that I ordered have not reached!! >.<

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Recently, I've been amazed by how courtship means different things for different people. I take it for granted that me and my circle of friends have principles that the person whom you are attached to has a potential to be your future partner. Even if we are not sure if we are going to marry that person, we 'evaluate' our relationship and our partner based on criteria that we have in mind for a spouse. Our effort to get to know each other is also based on an end-goal that we want to work towards marriage.

Apparently, some guys may not think 'that far'.

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The more I learn about children, the more I've found how parents' values and upbringing are very important. Parents can't stop growing and learning. Last year I found a vacancy as a case manager in a hospital for women's psychological well-being. I was not shortlisted for interview, but I remembered that I really wrote there that my interest in women's psychological well-being was influenced by my interest in children.

In fact, some studies showed that mother's depression may affect children's cognitive functioning. Other studies also showed how father's play behavior with the kids tends to be more adventurous (e.g., throwing kids to the air!) and this helps the kids to have courage to explore their surrounding too. So I found it very depressing to see how so many psychological evidences showed the importance of each parent, but at the same time, in the name of 'psychology', some people try to advocate parents with homosexual tendency' (two mothers or two fathers) to have right to adopt children.

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I've been transcribing observation videos for my work for the past week. It's quite amusing =D But I need tea to keep me awake in the afternoon while transcribing the videos.

More quick takes at Jen's blog!!! :)

Religious climate in....Singapore and Indonesia :)

Hello! You can read about religious climate in other countries through Jen's blog.

1.
I'm an Indonesian living in Singapore since 2008. So, I would love to share about religious climate in both countries ^^

2.
Church attendance is very good here. The difference is...in Indonesia, the churches are far from another. In Singapore, if you miss let's say 9.30 am Mass in Holy Cross, you can easily take MRT for two more stops and go to other church. It's so easy to go daily masses in Singapore. The timing ranges from 6.30am, 7am, 8.30am, even lunch-time weekday Mass! In Indonesia, if you want to go weekday Mass, you need to go to 6am Mass =P and they don't have weekday Mass on Saturdays. In my parish in Indonesia, evening Mass only available on Tuesday and Friday.

Oh another difference, in Indonesia, we need to set up tents outside at the parking lot for Easter Triduum and Christmas. There are just sooooooooooooo many people who suddenly come for Easter and Christmas (we call some people NaPas Catholics ('Na' for Natal (Christmas), 'Pas' for Paskah (Easter)).

My parish in Indonesia: Paroki Hati Maria Tak Bernoda (Parish Immaculate Heart of Mary)

Regarding Church attendance, there's something beyond 'attending Mass'. I think both in Singapore and Indonesia, many people still have this misconception that "It's okay to miss Mass on vacation" or "It's okay to miss Mass to study for exams". Another sad thing in Singapore is there are significant number of people who wear shorts and slippers to Mass. In Indonesia, people will surely stare at you or whisper behind your back to tell their kids not to follow your attire when you wear shorts or bathroom slippers to Mass.

3.
It is okay, no awkward moment when we acknowledge ourselves as Christian.

BUT..

in Singapore, people have misconceptions that Catholics are NOT Christians. When we make sign of cross or say that 'I go to Church on Sundays', some people ask, "Are you Christian?" I often answer, "Yes, I'm Christian-Catholic" and some of them would be confused.

in Indonesia, we just call ourselves Catholics and it's enough. They know that Catholics are Christians and they call our brothers and sisters from Christian Protestant as 'Christian Protestant'.

Ahh..additional information: The major religion in Indonesia is Islam, but Indonesia is NOT a Moslem country (unlike Malaysia!). So the confusion happened when I'm in Singapore and I said, "I'm from Indonesia." Their next question, "Can you eat pork?" I said, "Yes, I can eat everything. I'm a Catholic." Some friends in university will be puzzled, "I thought most Indonesians are Moslems?" Another complication is because in Singapore and Malaysia, the Malays (the race that is originally from this region, not Singaporean-Chinese or Singaporean-Indian) are Moslem. If the situation is like me, my dad is half-Chinese half-'Bumiputera' (how they call the Malays in Malaysia) while my mom is Chinese, I must be a Moslem in Malaysia. I don't have a choice. But in Indonesia, I can be a Catholic. Many Malays are Catholics or Christians, while in Singapore, Malay is assumed to be equal with being a Moslem.

4. What kind of faith do the Politicans claim to practice?

Politicians in Singapore - Uhm, I'm not sure. I guess Buddhist or free-thinker? I'm really not sure...
But Singapore used to have a Catholic foreign minister, George Yeo, who was just recently appointed as part of Special Vatican Commision. In terms of policy-making, Singapore practices secularism.

Politicians in Indonesia are Moslem. I guess it would still be a looooooooooooooooooonggg way to go till we have a Christian president. It'll be tough, to be honest. But yeah..we also have Catholic ministers. Interestingly, we always have national Christmas celebration which was attended by Archbishop in Jakarta (the capital city of Indonesia), some church leaders from Christian Protestant, and Indonesian president! :) Our law is not based on Sharia law (like in Malaysia), except in Aceh (one of the provinces in Indonesia).

5.
Attitudes towards family size

In Singapore, it definitely provokes an open mouth to see a family with more than three kids. In Indonesia, hmm, for my generation, I think four is still acceptable (but not common).

But..the sad thing is, my generation has been fed with Soeharto's "two-is-enough" campaign, the campaign to promote contraceptives and to curb the growth of population. Compared to Catholics in Singapore, most Catholics in Indonesia do not know about the Church teaching on contraceptives. :(:( *lots of homework to do to raise awareness about this!* ps. Soeharto is the second president of Indonesia. His regime stood for 32 years.

Advertisement on the streets: "Family has better quality with only two children"

What I would like to add is people in Indonesia have different views of marriage compared to people in Singapore. Oh well, my generation slowly has this mentality of 'must-have-all-first-before-marriage', but parents' view and advice would still be, "You learn and grow together after you get married. You don't need to be rich first." While in Indonesia, to get married at the age of 24 and 25 is normal, seen in Singapore as, "Wah, very young!!"

6.
I'm not sure about the dominant belief system in Singapore 50 years ago.

But for Indonesia, it's Islam. However, Islam 50 years ago in Indonesia is different with Islam now. Take an example of the use of veil for Moslem women. It was something that only came to Indonesia in 1970s and old generation was quite resistant about wearing it. They saw it as something foreign.

7. Do the people where you live seem happy with their lives?

I guess so. =P

I think I should write another post about Catholicism in my parish in Indonesia :):) I really admire the bond between Catholic neighbours in Indonesia because we have neighbourhood activities (smaller structure below parish). In Singapore they call this Neighbourhood Christian Communities (NCC), but I don't think it's as vibrant as in Indonesia. In Indonesia, the NCC takes turn to be wardens, to be choir for Sunday Masses, etc. However, I really think that we need more doctrinal formation! :(

3. HOW APPROPRIATE WOULD IT BE FOR A PERSON TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT HE OR SHE IS A BELIEVING CHRISTIAN IN CASUAL CONVERSATION? - See more at: http://www.conversiondiary.com/#sthash.CdQWKh1m.dpuf

1. WHERE DO YOU LIVE?
Your answer here.
2. WHAT IS CHURCH ATTENDANCE LIKE? ARE THERE MANY CHURCHES?
Your answer here.
3. HOW APPROPRIATE WOULD IT BE FOR A PERSON TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT HE OR SHE IS A BELIEVING CHRISTIAN IN CASUAL CONVERSATION?
Your answer here.
4. WHAT KIND OF FAITH DO THE POLITICIANS CLAIM TO PRACTICE?
Your answer here.
5. HOW COMMON WOULD IT BE TO SEE A FAMILY WITH MORE THAN THREE KIDS? WHAT ARE THE ATTITUDES TOWARD FAMILY SIZE?
Your answer here.
6. WHAT WAS THE DOMINANT BELIEF SYSTEM IN YOUR AREA 50 YEARS AGO? WHAT IS IT NOW?
Your answer here.
7. DO THE PEOPLE WHERE YOU LIVE SEEM HAPPY WITH THEIR LIVES?
Your answer here
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