Sometimes I wonder if "love" is enough in a relationship. What happened when someone says "I love you" but the action contradicts the words?
I finally had the opportunity to see from the 'outsider's point of view', how sickening it is to see when someone says the words "love" accompanied by a selfish action. It's a good lesson for me. I take it from granted that my circle of friends have shown what it means to show an act of selfless love, so that when I see someone who was just....urgh..from whatever angle I see or read the message over and over again, I can't see how it is a "love".
I guess it's true that when the someone said that these days, people misinterpret "charity" as 'donation' and simplify 'love' as 'Hollywood love'. Look at Glee! Well, I've never watched a single episode of Glee, but one day I on the TV and there was a scene like this:
Man: "I have good news! I will go to xyz state. This is what I've been dreaming for!"
Woman: "Ohhh I'm so happy for you."
Man: "You'll come with me right?"
Woman: "What? Noo.. that's your dream, but I have what I want here, teaching, etc."
Man: "You can take sabbathical leave."
Woman: "Nooo! You can't just expect me to follow you like a puppy."
After that, I changed the channel. This is the 'love' that has been planted in most movies.
Soo.. is "love" enough in a relationship?
I think, when you talk about dating, you can't expect that "I love you, you love me, confirm we'll get married". You get to know each other, and of course, you should take each other's personality and values into account. (Do I sound like a psychologist yet? :P)
At the end of the day, it is true that each person tries to grow to be a better person and each person helps the partner to be a better person too. Nevertheless, if there's a very strong value that you just can't take it (we don't need to put the phrase 'anymore' here, because after a few months, you actually can see the values that the other person holds), it's better to seriously think and talk about whether you two can go to the next stage.
Dear someone out there, don't worry, you deserve a better person :):) that guy may be a nice person, but not the right one yet. *hugs!*
I finally had the opportunity to see from the 'outsider's point of view', how sickening it is to see when someone says the words "love" accompanied by a selfish action. It's a good lesson for me. I take it from granted that my circle of friends have shown what it means to show an act of selfless love, so that when I see someone who was just....urgh..from whatever angle I see or read the message over and over again, I can't see how it is a "love".
I guess it's true that when the someone said that these days, people misinterpret "charity" as 'donation' and simplify 'love' as 'Hollywood love'. Look at Glee! Well, I've never watched a single episode of Glee, but one day I on the TV and there was a scene like this:
Man: "I have good news! I will go to xyz state. This is what I've been dreaming for!"
Woman: "Ohhh I'm so happy for you."
Man: "You'll come with me right?"
Woman: "What? Noo.. that's your dream, but I have what I want here, teaching, etc."
Man: "You can take sabbathical leave."
Woman: "Nooo! You can't just expect me to follow you like a puppy."
After that, I changed the channel. This is the 'love' that has been planted in most movies.
Soo.. is "love" enough in a relationship?
I think, when you talk about dating, you can't expect that "I love you, you love me, confirm we'll get married". You get to know each other, and of course, you should take each other's personality and values into account. (Do I sound like a psychologist yet? :P)
At the end of the day, it is true that each person tries to grow to be a better person and each person helps the partner to be a better person too. Nevertheless, if there's a very strong value that you just can't take it (we don't need to put the phrase 'anymore' here, because after a few months, you actually can see the values that the other person holds), it's better to seriously think and talk about whether you two can go to the next stage.
Dear someone out there, don't worry, you deserve a better person :):) that guy may be a nice person, but not the right one yet. *hugs!*
Wow, wow...
ReplyDeleteWhatever happened to thou shall not judge.
Honestly, I would prefer hearing Mercia said it in front of my face that she thought my life was a mess than you acting so nice and sweet in front of me but judge me as such.
Thank you very much!
-someone out there