One thing the lady shared in the talk was the question that she often got from other people: "How to get a good man as your husband?"
Her answer was, "Train your boyfriend to be a good man, a chaste man" and the same thing for the man,"Train your girlfriend to be a good woman, a chaste woman." Hahaha. Now I think about it, it's really true. In fact, courtship is a training ground for couples.
Initially I had this thought, people say the first 6 months of courtship is a honeymoon period, but I was wondering, why the first 3 months of my relationship already felt tough? I was worried that things will get worse, but I consulted my mum and my mum said it's normal that it's tough at the beginning because you are not hiding yourself. The next step is learning how to overcome the problems, accept each others' strength and weakness, and learn to improve yourself. When I heard this lady shared about 'training your man', I remembered what the different priests have been saying about courtship and the importance of self-control. Each person must take responsibility in terms of knowing the limit, it's a struggle together but each should strive to control oneself.
It's tough!!! But it's beautiful to train oneself and train others. It's not only about chastity, but also on other virtues. Well, I would say that you can't "force" your partner to be what you want, but you can help your partner to be a better person. Sometimes something irritates us and our intention of 'changing' our partner might not be purely for the person, but influenced by this thought, "I want him to change because his behavior irritates me." Here the role of prayer comes. It's really helpful to bring your protest to God and He'll let you see what love is and He'll help you to purify your intention.
Train your man or woman!! ^^
and one more thing that I remember from the meeting with the couple, "The third party is important: God."
Her answer was, "Train your boyfriend to be a good man, a chaste man" and the same thing for the man,"Train your girlfriend to be a good woman, a chaste woman." Hahaha. Now I think about it, it's really true. In fact, courtship is a training ground for couples.
Initially I had this thought, people say the first 6 months of courtship is a honeymoon period, but I was wondering, why the first 3 months of my relationship already felt tough? I was worried that things will get worse, but I consulted my mum and my mum said it's normal that it's tough at the beginning because you are not hiding yourself. The next step is learning how to overcome the problems, accept each others' strength and weakness, and learn to improve yourself. When I heard this lady shared about 'training your man', I remembered what the different priests have been saying about courtship and the importance of self-control. Each person must take responsibility in terms of knowing the limit, it's a struggle together but each should strive to control oneself.
It's tough!!! But it's beautiful to train oneself and train others. It's not only about chastity, but also on other virtues. Well, I would say that you can't "force" your partner to be what you want, but you can help your partner to be a better person. Sometimes something irritates us and our intention of 'changing' our partner might not be purely for the person, but influenced by this thought, "I want him to change because his behavior irritates me." Here the role of prayer comes. It's really helpful to bring your protest to God and He'll let you see what love is and He'll help you to purify your intention.
Train your man or woman!! ^^
and one more thing that I remember from the meeting with the couple, "The third party is important: God."
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